Yes, you read that title right, de-cluttering my bedroom closet has changed my life. If I hadn’t experienced it myself than I would be a little skeptical myself. Do you want to know how it did? Well, I’m going to tell you.
In my last post I talked about my new adventure in the mix of minimalism and KonMari for organizing my home. I finished the book last night. She has some wonderful concepts, some concepts don’t fit for my lifestyle. I’ve looked into minimalism and it has some wonderful concepts, some concepts don’t fit into my lifestyle. I’ve used Flylady’s concepts and LOVE her concepts but some don’t fit into my lifestyle either.
Guess what?! I’m taking from the three concepts and making a concept that fits 100% for my lifestyle; the concept of Joyism.
Alright already, you must be thinking, what’s this life changing experience you had while de-cluttering? I hear the disgust in your voice. I heard it in mine too, then I experienced it.
The KonMari method is Marie Kondo’s method and she has an exact order that you go about as you go through your home. Her order has merit, however, it leaves categories out that we need added. Tools, gardening stuff, etc. that take up probably half of our belongings, thanks to our business, are not even mentioned. I also see her reasoning for the order but that order isn’t what is most important for my family’s lifestyle.
Where to start?
Clothing is the number one category and agreed that it was a great starting point, so I went with it. Marie Kondo talks about pulling out every last piece of clothing you have in your home into one pile and go through it all at once. No, that doesn’t work for me. You see, there are 7 of us. Can you imagine the pile!?
I decided that I would do one person at a time. As luck would have it, I had just been through the twins bedrooms and de-cluttered their clothes with them. Starting with 2 already done gave me a sense of momentum.
I started with my own clothes. Even though she says to pile them all in one spot I couldn’t handle the extra work that would create. She also suggest subcategories that are quite intense. No thank you, let’s make this easy. I did one shelf, rack or drawer at a time.
Her reasoning for the pile is that you need to actually feel each piece of clothing in your hands to decide if it brings you joy. I get that, but I don’t need to take everything off of the hangers to do that. I just pulled each piece off the rack one at a time for that step.
The step of touching and deciding if each piece gives you joy is the most important step in this process!
I know it seems weird but I’m telling you, it’s what changed my life. In the past I’ve always cleaning out my closet with concepts that just didn’t cut it. If you haven’t worn it in a while get rid of it, if you don’t feel fabulous in it get rid of it, you should only have so many pieces of each type of clothing, etc. None of them quite fit for my lifestyle.
I know that there have to be others out there that are in the same boat as I am where I need to try to just be grateful for what I have. I don’t have the luxury of going out and buying new clothes hardly ever. When I’m given hand-me-downs I am always so excited.
I do have a style that I would prefer to wear. Very few items in my closet fit under this category. The concept of getting rid of it if you don’t feel fabulous wearing it doesn’t work because I wouldn’t have anything left. I always feel depressed after going through my clothes after using this concept; unfortunately my most used concept in the past.
I was scared that I would come out of this whole concept of each piece needing to make me feel joy with the same feelings of depression over my belongings.
Walking into my awesome closet that I love SO much I began to pull out a hanger at a time. I began to think about the fact that I had quite a bit here that were hand-me-downs that I kept because they were so cute but I wouldn’t ever fit into them. Calling my 14 and 16 year old girls in I asked them about these items, telling them not to take them if they didn’t like them. Another thing I learned from the KonMari method is that you shouldn’t push your things on others and to let them have their own style. If it doesn’t bring them joy, don’t let them take it. It was fun to share with them.
I then proceeded to pull the too-small-I’ll-never-be-that-small-again-and-even-if-I-did-they-would-be-out-of-style clothes out of the closet. My pile was growing. I then started to hold each piece of clothing and decide if it gave me joy. I went into this with my usual, it-doesn’t-matter-if-it-gives-me-joy-I’m-lucky-to-have-clothes attitude. That changed very quickly.
As I held and folded my jeans that I didn’t feel fabulous in I was feeling joy holding them. I was joyful that I had clothes that fit me. Next I held and folded the pants that are coated in paint from me finishing our furniture to support our family. I was filled with joy that I had clothes that I could wear to work in and ones that didn’t have paint on them.
I held a dress that was very outdated that my mom bought me approx. 10 years ago. It wasn’t going to fit me again but I’ve never gotten rid of it before because I did feel fabulous wearing it when I had fit into it. KonMari taught me that I could thank that piece for having given me the joy that it did. That dress had served it’s purpose already. It was now not giving me joy because every time I looked at it I thought about how much weight I have gained. I threw it into the ever growing pile.
All said and done, I de-clutterd 3 bags of clothes from my closet that didn’t bring me joy. I didn’t get rid of the ones that I was expecting that I would. These clothes turned out to give me joy that I hadn’t been acknowledging. I now have a gratitude for the belongings that I didn’t love before. They bring me joy. I still don’t love them, I’d trade them out in a second if I suddenly had a budget for a new wardrobe. I do get joy from them though.
Bag count so far: Thrift Store 2 Trash 1
Want to join me in this quest of Joyism? Comment below and let’s do it together.