We are constantly making decisions in life. I just heard a very profound statement while watching a corny T.V. show on Netflix. It really got me thinking and I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I actually had to go back and find the spot in the show so that I could write it down.
“You can’t make decisions in life based on what makes another person happy. It won’t work.” (Olivia from Cedar Cove)
I’ve mentioned before that my family and I are at a turning point. We can decide to keep going in the same direction or make a total change. It’s been a very hard, scary and confusing situation to be in. I would love to just be told what would be the best and just do it. It’s not fun being a grown-up that is required to make grown-up decisions.
As a mother we often base most of our decisions on what’s best for our family. That’s good and the right thing to do, but not always. We need to do things that are good for us and that make us happy too.
If we are making a decision that we know is going to make us unhappy, maybe we should rethink it. It’s possible to do what’s best for others and still be happy ourselves.
That’s why prayer is such an important part of my life. I have thoughts come to my mind that I know that I couldn’t have thought of on my own, through prayer. Things that don’t seem very significant can lead to huge things or changes in my life.
We have been spending lots of time praying and pondering on what direction to take next. As we are doing this we complicate it by trying to think of how it will affect others that aren’t in our immediate family. Some of those considerations are important and necessary. Others, not so much.
It isn’t possible to make everyone happy.
This is something that I learned very well while working at a school who had a principal who thought that he could. Trying to make everyone happy caused him to just develop enemies in all the wrong places. It’s impossible to make everyone happy at the same time. It simply can’t be done.
We need to actively be trying to do what’s right and best at all times. Looking at the whole of the situation and not at each individual is the only way to make decisions and be happy yourself.
I’m grateful for that simple reminder during a time that my family and I needed it. It is a tender mercy from the Lord.
How do you make decisions in your life? Do you make sure that you aren’t making everyone else happy while keeping yourself miserable? I would love to hear how you do it. Leave a comment at the very bottom of the page, making sure that you are no longer on the homepage.