It should be that only those that beget hate receive hate. I’m sure that those that are giving the hate receive enough of their own hate. My question is why do those that are just trying to be helpful and loving receive so much hate also?
I’m tired of trying to be helpful to others and show love to just be walked all over and treated so poorly. I’ve had this happen to me so many times that I want to stop being helpful. I want to just curl up into myself and not go out of my way for anyone. I don’t like feeling like that. I’m tired of feeling taken advantage of and angry because of it.
I’ve been frantically pulling weeds tonight trying to get that anger out. It didn’t help. As I kept feeling more and more angry I decided that I needed to figure out how to not feel like this. I’m kind of at a loss right now. I have tried to “kill them with kindness” and that just makes me get taken advantage of worse. I’ve tried to ignore it but it’s still there laughing me in the face.
Tips To Help You Not Get Taken Advantage Of
I have been looking online for advice on how to not be taken advantage of. Unfortunately I haven’t found anything that can help me feel better right now. There is lots of advice on how to prevent it though. So, I guess I will have to deal with what has already happened, somehow, and prevent it more in the future.
Pick your battles
Everyone is taken advantage of at one time or another. Evaluate if this is one of the times that it’s okay to just let it go.
Don’t be afraid to say no
If it isn’t something you can or even want to do, it’s okay to say no. If it’s disrespectful and unreasonable to you, it’s okay to say no.
Choose your words carefully
Even practice what you will say if you are in different situations. I already know that I am going to be in a situation next week where I am being taken advantage of. I am already thinking of the best ways to squash that disrespect and unreasonable request that takes advantage of me. A plan can help make things more comfortable for you, even if it isn’t something set that you know will be happening. Practice what you are going to say as a general no when you are comfortable with the request.
Follow through with saying no and using your words to stick up for yourself.
Don’t be afraid to expect others to not take advantage of you.
Acknowledge your feelings
Don’t be afraid to accept that you aren’t feeling good about the way you are being taken advantage of. If you take the time to realize why you are feeling this way you might find that it really isn’t as big of a deal as you where originally thinking. It might also help you to realize that it is an even bigger deal.
You have a right to be respected!
There is no excuse to be treated disrespectfully. If someone is taking advantage of you and it’s disrespectful, nip it in the bud. That is NOT okay.
Realize that you aren’t responsible for helping everyone or even every time.
There are other people out there that can do it to.
What do you want
If you don’t want to do it, do your really have to? I know there are some times where you really do need to do it, but not usually.
Help with another solution
If you can’t or don’t want to help someone, help them come up with other solutions. Give them an idea of a different way to do it without you.
What has worked for you? I would love to hear. Leave a comment at the very bottom of the page, making sure you are no longer on the homepage.